Magic in the Heart

I watched a movie the other night, you know the typical boy meets girl. Girl is currently involved with a different boy. First boy leaves, girl realizes she is with the wrong man. The typical chick flick. I'm not particularly fond of these movies but since joining NetFlix I'll pretty much watch whatever has a catchy movie cover.

I personally believe that these types of movies are bad for any woman to watch. They never come true! If even one person can tell me of someone they know that met that perfect someone then realized at the almost too late, last minute they were the ones they spend the rest of their lives with. I will shut up and wait for my Knight in Shining Armor to come. Until then I will continue to think they put bad ideas in our heads.

This movie however had some truths to it, one character was always trying to find that perfect person. Then finally towards the end another character told them something along these lines:

"Maybe true love is a decision, a decision to take a chance with somebody.

To give to somebody. Without worrying whether they'll give anything back.
Or if they're going to hurt you, or if they really are the one.
Maybe love isn't something that happens to you.
Maybe it's something you have to choose."

I think this is pretty spot on, until you choose to give someone a chance nothing will happen. You can't wait for someone to come sweep you off your feet. You have to make the decision that someone can sweep you off your feet. So now the question is: When you get a divorce how long do you wait until you decide to take that chance?

I've heard so many theories on how long you should wait from the second the decree is final, to 1 year for every 5 that you are married. Even divide the time that you were together in half. Personally I think everyone is different, you do need to handle your break-up through the regular grieving process. Denial, Anger/Resentment, Bargaining, Depression, then finally Acceptance. I'm pretty sure Fear and Anxiety fits in there somewhere as well! Don't listen to the so-called rules that someone decided should be the only way!

The choice is yours, I'm ready to jump in... Join me?
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